Most couples have spent upwards of twelve months arranging the wedding. That’s a long time. It feels like all roads lead back to the upcoming nuptials and figuring out the details. Much time and money is spent. So, it’s understandable that we have ideas and expectations for your special day. The thing is, couples who have fun at their weddings are the people that are able to let go of things to a certain extent – to roll with whatever may transpire. Those who manage this potentially challenging task of rolling with it and who can delegate effectively can actually have fun at their own wedding. Sounds good, huh?. And while men have become increasingly involved in the process, it is still the Bride who shoulders the majority of the expectations. Therefore, generally speaking, the Bride’s outlook and approach are more relevant than anything else. Ergo, ‘Happy Bride, Happy Day’. A calm Bride, which often means a chilled out Groom, augurs a happier day, and better wedding photography.
Now, may not be as easy as it sounds because there are a lot of people involved. That includes the couple, the Family members and the Vendors. Still, the wedding day is mostly about the Bride.
First to the laid-back Bride. You’re all good. Because there will definitely be an issue or two, though chances are it will be more than manageable. Maybe the flowers aren’t ‘exactly’ what you had in mind. Maybe there isn’t a place card for one of your guests. Maybe your dress rubbed against something and there is a minor mark. Maybe one of your always irritating family members is, not surprisingly, being irritating. Maybe after five sunny days in a row, it’s pouring rain. And so on… No worries, mate. After all, you’re just elated because you adore your soon-to-be-hubby soooo much! So, you take it all in stride and revel in your special day. And the wedding photographer loves you.
To the excitable Bride, this is most likely going to be the most intense day of your life so far (if you haven’t already given birth that is). To be sure you’ll want to be calm and easy. Alas, it doesn’t take much to uncenter you. While the following advice apply to all couples, they may be vital for the overly sensitive Bride:
- Select a trusted person to handle snags, preferably your Maid of Honor. She should take care of most problems, only letting you know if it’s a key decision.
- Wrap up all wedding prep at least a few days before the day so you can really enjoy the build-up.
- Visualize ahead of time. Knowing it’s going to be a demanding day, visualize ahead of time to not over-react to things.
- Try to identify worries and frustration within yourself asap so it doesn’t intensify and develop into something much worse. In short, let it go.
- That detail you are so worked up about… Most likely your guests won’t see or care – unless you bring attention to it. Most of your guests are there for you.
- Family Funny Business. You already know who in your families drove you up the wall (nobody does that quite like family). The silver lining here is that if there is a certain someone who just gets your goat, you can see it coming from miles away. Don’t permit avoidable outside forces from throwing you off. Own your own feelings and responses.
- Be open to a change of plans. Crappy day? Be receptive to your photographer’s ideas because they should be doing their utmost to capture good couple shots (arguably the most important pictures). In short, be flexible. Occasionally, an plan B actually ends up being better than the set plan.
And what of the Groom? Suffice to say, he can also be a Groomzilla, but generally speaking, he is usually doing this best to keep his Bride cheery – if he’s smart anyway. The wedding day is a concentrated practice session for the rest of your lives together. ‘Happy Bride, Happy Day’ flows nicely into both ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’ and sets the stage for creative wedding photography.
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